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How to Talk to Friends and Family About Being Veg

How to Talk to Friends and Family About Being Veg

When I became a vegan a few years ago, I was so proud of my decision to forgo all animal products that I wanted my family to follow me into this newfound enlightenment. When they weren’t so quick to jump on board, I was confused and a little upset. Then, on a trip to visit my cousins, I experienced my first taste of ridicule for this lifestyle I had chosen. I even got into an argument about veganism with someone I hardly knew! Not to mention, some people in my life immediately became armchair nutritionists, doubtful that I could thrive on such an “extreme” diet.

Thankfully the benefits of my vegan lifestyle have far outweighed the annoying criticism, and over the years I’ve become committed to the vegan lifestyle. My health is fantastic, my moods are brighter, my energy abundant, and plant-based living has become my passion and career. In my journey I’ve discovered that the best way to show people that eating a well-balanced whole foods vegan diet is beneficial is to be a glowing example of health and happiness.

Build your tribe of like-minded people who understand your lifestyle, and don’t judge the people who aren’t yet plant-based. But how do you talk to the people in your life who think you're crazy, or those you wish would go veg too? Here are my tips.

1. If they think you’re crazy, let it go. Who cares? Occasionally people want to argue about dietary choices, but no agreement can ever be reached when they’ve already made up their minds and are unwilling to listen to a different point of view. I don’t think arguing is worth my energy. If you are up for a discussion, however, and want to school someone on your lifestyle, stick to the facts and don’t get too emotional.  

Win them over with tasty treats!
2. If family and friends are genuinely curious about your diet, tell them why you’ve changed your eating habits and offer to prepare them a delicious veg dish. If they're interested, share your favorite Web sites and books on the topic and let them explore further on their own time. Some great documentaries are available (including online or through Netflix); I recommend watching Forks Over Knives and Vegucated. They’re not painful to watch like undercover farm videos, but they convey their message powerfully.
3. If a loved one is concerned that you aren’t getting the right amount of nutrients, kindly share with them the many ways you consume nutrients like protein, iron, calcium, omega-3s, etc. If you’re consuming a variety of whole foods, you’re probably doing just fine with nutrient intake, so show them what you eat and how it contributes to your health. I find that sharing foods that everyone is familiar with is a great way to bridge the gap. For example, lentils, broccoli, collard greens, kale, and spinach are all familiar foods that provide protein, calcium, iron, vitamins, and other nutrients.
The best ways to share the benefits of a veg diet are by being a glowing example of health and introducing people to the delicious, healthy, and familiar foods that help you thrive.
Jenné Claiborne is passionate about helping women adopt and maintain a plant-based diet so they can improve their energy, lose weight, and feel their very best. She is the founder of The Nourishing Vegan, a New York–based personal chef service. Follow Jenné on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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I salute your decision to commit to a vegan diet. Although I prefer to mix in other non vegan foods, I am trying increase the amount of vegetables I eat and not eat as much meat. I do feel that people will come around more to your way of thinking more by the example you set than by you telling them how to eat. It's like different religions. They have to be ready to make that decision. You can't do it for them. Just put the information out there and allow them to see it for themselves. If they're ready, they'll make the changes. I wouldn't argue with anyone about it. That rarely causes change and will probably just leave you frustrated. Even if someone starts out small with a vegan diet, that is a start. I do admire your passion. Sometimes though it's hard to harness it and you can come on too strong. That can turn people off. Anyway, keep the faith and be nurturing. People will come around if they're ready.

I follow a plant based diet. I love it and hoped my family and friends would see how happy and healthy I was and give it a try. Then, I was diagnosed with lymphoma. So much for a glowing example...

I have been vegetarian for over a year now, but i am questioning weather or not i should be vegan. I have officially decided that i am stopping to eat eggs, because of the animal cruelty to unwanted chicks, but i dont know if i still want to drink milk. I am a teenager and my parents belive that i am not getting enough protein as it is. I don't know if i would be doing the right thing to continue to drink and eat dairy products, but i also am concerned about not getting enough protein and not enjoying not being able to eat some of my favourite foods. I have found several substitutes for egg-free diets, but i don't know what i would do if i did become vegan. Does anyone have any advice?